I’d like to tell you a story, one that may sound very familiar to you.

This friend of mine wanted to get laid really badly. It had been quite a while since he had last felt that pink moistness.

Everyday all he could think about was having a woman in his arms and it actually interfered with his sleep.

He didn’t think much about what kind of girl he wanted – he found almost every girl in his sight extremely sexy and just wanted her in his bedroom.

We went out together a few times and I pushed him into some sets and helped him to get his confidence up.

The third time we went out he met this cute blonde girl. She wasn’t the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen, but she was cute.

They ended up going out a few times and he gushed about how much he liked her – and he couldn’t wait until the moment he could have her in his arms and in his bed. I was really happy for him because it looked like he was about to get what he had wanted.

A few days later he called me up and was quite upset. My immediate thought was that he had done something stupid to drive this girl to dump his ass.

To my surprise I couldn’t have been more wrong. He was upset because he DID sleep with her. And he told me that as soon as he had finished orgasm he had this strange feeling at that moment that…

HE WISHED HE WAS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE EARTH!

The next morning he wanted her out the door and wanted to be friends only, but it looked like she wanted a relationship. He wished he could just have disappeared!

Has that ever happened to you?

You met a girl that you were excited about, and once you landed her in bed – for one reason or another – you didn’t want to continue a relationship with her? Perhaps you would continue a “booty call” relationship, but that was it – the girl just wasn’t the girl for you?

Women often get this same exact feeling after sleeping with a man - particularly for extremely attractive women who have unlimited choice in partners.

As you get better in seduction, you might have situations where you quickly land an incredibly beautiful woman in bed – and afterwards the girl is thinking to herself, “Ewww… WHAT HAVE I DONE???”

She somewhat regrets having slept with you and is not up for continuing any sort of relationship – even though YOU are.

Or the girl thinks that you’re a cool guy, but she’s not so madly in love with you to put up with the fact that you spend some of your time chasing other girls and that you're not willing to make her your exclusive girlfriend.

Meaning, the girl will continue to be with you only as long as you give her “girlfriend status”. She won't settle for being simply your friend plus booty-call girl forever and ever. She eventually dumps your ass for another guy who will be her exclusive boyfriend.

Here’s the million dollar question of relationships.

So WHAT is it about SOME girls that we DO want to have REAL relationships with?

Is the factor their incredible looks? A bubbly personality? A heart of gold? Or something else?

And WHAT is it about SOME guys that women never think to themselves, “Eww, why did I sleep with him?” and will stick by you NO MATTER WHAT – even when they know you’ve got two or three other girlfriends on the side?

I don’t know what it was about this particular girl that my friend felt he didn’t want to have a relationship with her and had to dump her. Perhaps she wasn’t pretty enough for him. Perhaps she wasn’t interesting enough fom him.

However, I *do* know what the answer to the second question is – what quality it is that those few, rare men possess that once a woman has a taste of him, they’re hooked forever on him like a dangerous heroine addiction. I *do* know that one quality some men have that keeps a beautiful woman who has unlimited choice with men coming back again and again to them without fail.

And that’s to be the most incredible lover she’s ever had.

Don’t take that lightly.

I mean, you have to be the most incredible lover she’s EVER experienced before or could ever hope to find again – the kind of sexual experience she dreams about and masturbates to when she’s alone. You have to become her source of pleasure that she couldn’t ever hope to find in any other man.

In other words, you want to hold a MONOPOLY over her pleasure.

By holding a monopoly over her pleasure, she’ll have no one else to turn to for it, and you can charge whatever price you like. In other words, you can set the terms of the relationship and yet hold confidence that she’ll always come back for more.

Fortunately, it’s pretty easy to do because NO guys study the pleasuring of women. And all the how-to sex books out there have bits and pieces of advice, but don’t really teach you how to OWN her sexual soul from the very core.

What do most guys do? When making love to a woman they’re in their own head, catering firstly to their own fantasy. First, they want to get their Johnny inside the girl and pump her. Second, they want to see the girl perhaps in various positions like doggey-style and see her butt in the air.

Worse, a lot of guys are nervous about “performing”, they play it safe, pump mechanically, don’t speak except to grunt a little, and finish quickly.

To a beautiful woman with unlimited choice, that kind of sex is rather ho-hum and will not make her become addicted to you. She could walk into any bar or any night and get that from ANY guy.

To really be an incredible lover like she’s never had you have to sexually engage her MENTALLY, not just physically.

You see, sex for a woman is 20% physical and 80% mental.

The average man and woman doesn’t realize this, because the mental aspect of sex remains untapped and invisible to them.

But by unleashing her mind to sex, through your actions and words, you can turn any woman into a sexual Leviathon that has full body orgasms 100 times more powerful than before – a sexual creature that can only be unlocked when you’re with her. Women only need be shown how and given permission.

That’s why I wrote Legendary Lover and now, my all audio cd course Blissnosis.

Blissnosis shows you how to use your WORDS in the bedroom to take control over her mind and body, intensify sex, take her into a fantasy world of pure pleasure, and deepen her orgasms to body-shattering experiences.

I wonder if my friend would have felt differently if this girl he had slept with – even if she were less cute and more of a bore – had rocked his world in bed and given him the most fun, explosive sex he’d ever experienced.

A lot of guys say to me they want to find a girl who is eager to take the initiative to rip their pants off, eager to get down on their knees like they’re about to get a magically sweet lollipop in their mouth, smile when they unzip their pants, and eagerly deep throat them without getting tired while deriving genuine delight from doing it.

I wonder if my friend would have been so eager to disappear off the face of the Earth if he had such a good – and extremely rare – thing going for him from this girl.

Alas, she probably just lay there and didn’t like to give head.

So she lost him, cute as she was. Too bad.

On the other hand, I have students who get called up by girls they’ve slept with but haven’t seen in over three months. The girls call them for a booty-call... because the girl misses that incredible sex that they soon discover no one else can give them – even though the guy pays no attention to them otherwise!

Ah life is interesting, isn’t it?

So check out my new course Blissnosis and find out for yourself just how interesting YOUR life can be.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio

http://www.seductionscience.com